5 Tips for Coming Out

One of the things I’m asked most about is if I have any advice on how to come out. I’m sharing five tips that helped me accept — and be proud of! — my sexuality. These are by no mean one-size-fits-all solutions and I recognize that as a cis-white male, I’ve been afforded privileges that are not necessarily available to everyone in the LGBTQ+ community. I can only speak to my own experience, but these are things I wish someone had told me when I was a gay kid growing up in the Midwest. 

1) COME OUT TO YOURSELF!

It might seem small, but accepting yourself is by far the hardest and most important step you can take.

2) MAKE SURE THAT YOU FEEL SAFE!

There’s no denying that many people have negative experiences, so having a safety plan is crucial. If there’s ever any question, reach out to a professional. You can call or text the @TrevorProject — a 24-hour lifeline that helps LGBTQ+ people in crisis.

3) COME OUT TO ONE PERSON!

Find a friend, parent, sibling or teacher who you trust. Having even just one ally will make a world of difference.

4) IT’S NOT A RACE!

Don’t feel the need to put a label on what you are. Even as you get older, your understanding of your gender identity and sexuality can change. Eventually you will find an identity that feels right.

5) START LIVING!

Being honest and accepting of yourself is more than just lifting a burden — it’s putting on a suit of armor.